Ways To Increase Your Confidence
Your level of self-confidence determines how well you carry yourself in everything that you do. However, feeling confident is not always easy. There are many people who struggle with low self-esteem, especially when confronted with adversity or when stepping outside of one’s comfort zone. Confidence may not come naturally to you, but that doesn’t mean that it can’t be learned.
Here are some ways that can help boost your confidence:
- Use Positive Self-Talk
Where do feelings of insecurity come from? These are thoughts of our self-doubts. When you doubt yourself and consider what has gone wrong in the past as well as what could go wrong in the future, your confidence level will plummet.
Begin speaking more positively to yourself. When you become more aware of how you speak to yourself, you will discover that you can use your positive thoughts to directly boost your confidence.
Set aside a specific amount of time each day to repeat positive phrases to yourself such as: “I believe in myself.” Or “I am confident.” These simple yet powerful phrases will retrain the way you speak to yourself and boost your confidence in the process.
- Don’t Compare Yourself to Others
Comparing yourself to others demonstrates a lack of confidence. If you believe in yourself and believe you are good enough, why do you feel the need to compare yourself to others?
You are looking for reasons to be confident by comparing yourself to others. However, when you stop comparing and start focusing on yourself, your confidence level will improve dramatically.
- Focus On Your Accomplishments
When you lack confidence, your natural tendency will be to scrutinize everything that you have done. Even if you take a more positive approach by focusing on the areas that need improvement so that you can improve yourself in future, this may cause more harm than good.
Instead, making each experience a stepping stone to success helps build your confidence.
So start focusing on what you did well. This immediately boosts your confidence after a performance. You’ll be proud of yourself for your accomplishments, no matter how small these may be.
- Learn to Accept Feedback Objectively
Have you ever received negative feedback from a coach, teammate, parent, or anyone else? It is understandable that you may not want to admit this because you believe you are tough enough to handle it and feedback can sometimes hurt you.
However, if you want to boost your confidence, you must learn how to effectively receive feedback. And by that, it really means to take them objectively. When we are objective, we almost appear to be looking at the situation apart from ourselves. Every word spoken is not taken personally. You can listen, examine, and then act on the information.
There are two reasons why this helps boost your confidence. First, by strengthening your mind, you immediately boost your confidence. Second, by allowing feedback to be taken in stride will have no negative impact on your self-esteem.
- Face Challenges Squarely
When you do something difficult and succeed, you get a great sense of accomplishment and pride. There’s nothing quite like stepping outside your comfort zone and pushing the boundaries of what you thought was impossible. Confidence grows each time you achieve a goal or complete a challenge you set for yourself. The main reason for this is that confidence grows from experience.
Therefore, you should set small goals for yourself first. Simplify your goals so that these will not seem too frightening, lest they will have the opposite effect and undermine your confidence. It’s all about taking small steps forward and pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone every day. As you progress, your confidence will grow.
- Develop Self-Awareness
There will be times when you will doubt yourself more than others. Recognizing this, as well as what is causing the drop in confidence, is critical. This understanding is gained by honing the skill of self-awareness. Understanding your thoughts and what is causing you to think that way is part of self-awareness. It also involves recognizing how those thoughts make you feel and the actions those feelings drive.
Self-awareness can be increased simply by paying more attention to your thoughts and feelings. When you notice that you are doubting yourself, pause and try to identify what you’re thinking. Examine your current situation to see how it may be fueling your thoughts. You will begin to understand yourself better once you begin to develop self-awareness.
- Keep a Daily Journal
Lack of confidence stems from negative self-beliefs. Coming face to face with these beliefs is critical in changing how you see yourself and developing a solid foundation from which confidence grows. However, simply thinking about your negative beliefs can be frightening. As you confront your negative self-beliefs, your mind will work to suppress the thoughts and replace them with more pleasant ones for the time being.
That is where writing comes in. Writing allows you to work through the negative beliefs you have about yourself. You can also challenge these beliefs by writing down why you have them in the first place and where they came from. The more you write about them, the less influence they have on you. Discovering your limiting beliefs provides you with valuable information which you can use to change them. You can also use your daily writing practice to remind yourself of what went well the day before or the day before that. This will reinforce the memory of success and instill a sense of self-belief.
- Practice Visualization
Visualization is the practice of creating a mental scene. You can recreate a real-life scene by closing your eyes and bringing in all of the details and emotions that go with it. This is one of the most effective ways to build confidence, as it allows you to visualize achieving success over and over again.
You won’t get very far if you don’t have self-confidence. Whatever work you may do, you must always believe in yourself and that you have the necessary skills to succeed.