Tips To Be Kind To Yourself
First, be honest!
Before you read this article, you should be completely honest with yourself. Have you been kind to yourself? This can be quite difficult at times, especially when you frequently put everyone else ahead of you and you end up feeling tired, frustrated or worn out.
That is until you realized that being kind to yourself isn’t a luxury or something you should only do when you’re sick or at your lowest point. With life pulling in all directions, it is time to show compassion and self-love to your body and mind to keep your balance and live a happier life.
What exactly does it mean to be kind to yourself?
One of the reasons you struggle with being kind to yourself is you haven’t fully grasped the term. Does it imply buying a bouquet of flowers, treating yourself to a shopping trip, taking a nap when you’re tired, or something else?
Yes, it can mean those things, but when you try them out for yourself, they don’t always work as well as you’d hoped. Below are some tips on how to be kind to yourself that you can try to practice.
1. Self-love and self-compassion
Self-kindness is characterized by self-love and self-compassion. It’s about paying attention to your body and mind and what they require on a regular basis. It’s about developing self-care habits and routines that sustain and nourish you so that you can be the best version of yourself when it comes to enjoying your precious life.
Realize that being kind to yourself entails treating yourself in the same manner in which you treat others – with honesty, respect, fairness, compassion, and kindness. Let’s try to redress the balance by being your own best friend and treating yourself with the same kindness you’ve been taught to show others.
So, if you struggle with self-care, reframe your thoughts and do it not only for yourself but for those you care about as well!
2. Be mindful and be present
We put off self-care and being kind to ourselves because we don’t consider these a priority. We are too busy rushing through life and taking care of other people to take care of ourselves. We are still thinking about what to cook for dinner tonight or those urgent emails lurking in our inbox. We are physically present, but our minds are always elsewhere.
The key is to practice mindfulness and to be more present in whatever we’re doing. We must permit ourselves to take time and space for ourselves and not cram doing many things in between or thinking about something else at the time.
3. Be responsible for yourself
You know yourself better than anyone else, and if you listen to what your body and mind are saying, you will usually know what you need. Sometimes we ignore the signals, or we don’t know what’s wrong but are aware that something is wrong and needs to be addressed. We frequently sweep problems under the rug, pretend they don’t exist, or don’t trust our instincts or ourselves enough to make intentional changes and improvements.
In all circumstances, however, you should take responsibility for your choices, decisions, and actions. You do yourself a disservice by failing to address issues, making excuses, and assigning blame.
Being kind to yourself involves taking responsibility for what you do and how you do things. If something needs to be changed, then make the necessary changes. Do not wait for problems to arise or for someone else to perform them for you.
4. Rest and recharge
The wonderful side effects of being less busy are having more free time to rest and recharge your internal batteries, and having less on your to-do list or appointment calendar. Take care of yourself by taking a nap, meditating for a few minutes, tending to your garden, cuddling your children, and relaxing with your partner.
5. Practice acceptance and forgiveness
Nothing is crueller than comparing yourself to others, chastising yourself for making mistakes, regretting past decisions, or holding a grudge. These are unhealthy habits not only because they are unfair and unfounded, but also because they consume your energy, which could be better spent making the wrong things right and improving the ‘future you’ rather than berating the ‘past you’.
Focus on all that you are today and be kind to yourself. Every morning, repeat positive affirmations to yourself, and use prompts for self-care and self-love. Wherever possible, forgive and forget the past and focus on today and tomorrow.
6. Lose the guilt around self-care
Guilt is a strong emotion, but it is not always beneficial. How many times have you put yourself last because you felt guilty about devoting time and energy to yourself? Perhaps too many times?
Just because you practice self-care regularly as a way of being kind to yourself doesn’t mean you do it at the expense of everything else or that you’ve abdicated all of your other responsibilities. It simply means that you are taking care of yourself as well as everyone else. You can find time for anything if you prioritize properly. It all depends on how much you value yourself.
7. Invest in yourself
Investing in yourself, whether in time, money, or energy, is a wonderful act of self-kindness. There is only one of you, and being the best means you can give the best of yourself to those who need it the most.
Don’t be afraid to pursue hobbies, learn new skills, seek help when you need it, create the perfect capsule wardrobe that makes you feel great, take an evening class, or plan a vacation. Invest in yourself by doing something that expands your mind, broadens your horizons, and brings you joy.
In a nutshell
Hope you find these suggestions useful. You can implement these tips to develop the healthy habit of being kind to yourself. Being kind to yourself isn’t always easy, especially when you’re short on time, energy, and mental space. What’s crucial is that you find time for yourself by identifying the activities that consume most of your time and energy and prioritizing those that require your urgent attention.